We appreciate your support and feedback soooo much, but this week is all about you! We asked if you guys had any questions for us regarding this month’s theme and you definitely gave us some good ones.
Question #1: What do you do to keep yourself motivated to keep working at your goals as the year wears on?
Well, let me just be honest. I am very much on top of my resolutions at the beginning of the year, but by the time February and March hit, I am definitely dragging my feet a little. However, being the bull-headed person that I am, I like to finish what I start. With that being said I have, for the last two years, made a list of 10 things I want to accomplish in that year. Last year I achieved all but one; however, this year my goal is to achieve all ten. My suggestion to keeping yourself motivated is writing the goal down and looking at it periodically, or putting it somewhere you will see it a lot. That way you won’t forget what you are trying to achieve. Also, write a list of ten rewards for yourself so that every time you achieve or have improved on a goal, you get a reward. Make sure it is something you really really want so that you will stay true. Hopefully this is helpful.
Honestly? I fail lots! This year, I have finally started to set goals to work towards accomplishing rather than resolutions with a fail and “I’m done!” policy. I also try to remember when I fail to just start back up again where I left off. One thing that I do to try and keep from failing is find reminders and tools that help me stay on track. Depending on your resolutions, there are lots of good helpful apps, even planners and books!
As a girl who hates routine, I totally understand how hard it is to find the motivation to continue your goals. My advice would be to find new ways to keep things interesting. The great thing about goals is that there are a hundred paths to choose from. Reward yourself for what you do right and give yourself grace for when you don’t. Another good way to stay motivated is to incorporate what you love and enjoy into your goals. God gave you talents for a reason, use them to fuel you.
Question #2: Which resolution have you stuck with so far?
Like I said in the previous answer, I have set goals rather than resolutions this year. One goal, which I discussed in my article, is no-phone times. I downloaded an app called Quality Time. With that app, I can still use certain necessary apps (like the phone or camera) but no social media for a certain time that I can set. Another goal I had was to clean up my media. For social media I did a lot of unfollowing and unliking. I am trying to fill my feeds full of Godly, Christian, uplifting, and encouraging people. If I’m going to spend time on social media I want it to be for my good. “Whatsoever ye do…” is a mentality I am trying to implement more and more this year, not only on social media but in music and movies too!
This year, I’ve kind of avoided sitting down and actually coming up with a list of goals/resolutions. Mainly because the past couple years have taught me that I really don’t have much of a say in what the future holds. I feel that coming up with a to-do list will hinder what I truly wish to accomplish this year. I guess you could say that my “resolution” is let go and let God. His ways are not my ways and I know that as long as I’m seeking Him, He will guide my steps in ways that I cannot. I still have plans and hopes for this year, but they are not my main focus. Over the last several months, I’ve really felt God imprint a single word onto my heart. Growth. And for me, personally, that is an area I want Him to have full and complete control over. Whenever I take the lead, things usually end in a mess.
Well, I made a list of ten resolutions for this year. The one that I think is probably most important (and the one I have kept the best so far) is my resolution to pray more. When I started out, it seemed like I could barely make it ten minutes, now I have no problem doing 20. I’m hoping the time will increase as the year progresses. The way I see it, if the only resolution I stick to this year is growing closer to Jesus, then it will be the most successful year ever.
Question #3: I’ve heard lots of people say different things about resolutions. Some say they’re dumb, some say they’re good. I personally never manage to stick to mine, so I really don’t have an opinion. What’s your opinion? I kind of take it, judging from the topic, that y’all approve.
I have a love/hate relationship with resolutions. Like I said in my article, I don’t think they are as good or as bad people make them out to be. I’m less of a believer in resolving to do specific things and more of a believer in fixing character, personality, and mental attitude. Psalms 4:23 has an excellent view on this. “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Maintaining one’s heart is not something that can only be done within 365 days. It is a daily discipline that must be kept through our lifetime. And if that is the only resolution we decide to keep, then we’re in pretty good shape.
For years, I always made resolutions that never stuck. Now that I am older I love them and do my best to stick to them. However, my opinion on them is that every person is different and they all achieve things differently. If making a list and checking it off throughout the year isn’t helpful to you, that is absolutely fine. You can figure out what works best for you, and when you figure it out I would love to hear it!
I think Hannah wrote an excellent article that made me like resolutions more! As she said, if you don’t let your resolutions define, but change you, they are great! Also, I think there is something to be said about developing a “failure-isn’t-final” mentality! So to those people who say they don’t like them because they always just fail, I would say that if we don’t learn from our failures and turn them around for good, how are we ever supposed to grow and succeed in life?
Question #4: Many of us this year are attempting to memorize more scripture. What are some ways to go about this? Especially if you want to memorize new ones, but you don’t want to forget the ones you memorized?
Well, I am with you on the scripture memorization this year. I have found myself looking for tips as well. I do tend to have a good memory so it is not as hard for me to remember scripture, but the hard part for me is remembering to apply it. One of the main things that I do with any scripture I want to memorize or apply is write it down on a 3×5 card. My school desk and room is filled with many scriptures that I look at and say, “Hey! I forgot about that.” For me, my room and desk are the most “traveled” areas of my house. So be sure to find the spots in your home that you tend to be in often and add those note cards. Of course if this method isn’t your thing, that is absolutely fine.
When we were missionaries in Haiti, I discovered a great tool to memorizing verses. I would set the lock screen on my tablet as a scripture and every time I would go to unlock it I would read that scripture a couple times. When I have a scripture I want to memorize I look it up on Pinterest and normally you can find several pretty backgrounds and wallpapers. I just love, in general, to surround myself with scripture so that I’m reminded of the ones I have memorized. I have them written in my school folders and posted in places I see every day. Something else I do is really try to understand the verse and relate it to real life. If I can apply the scripture to a life experience it makes me want to memorize it even more because it means something to me. As to not forgetting, I think if it applies to an everyday circumstance then when that circumstance occurs it will be brought to mind.
I’m with Ashley as far having a knack for memorization, but I do struggle with keeping things memorized. Last year, however, I came up with trick that helped me out a lot. For an entire week I would focus on memorizing one scripture. I would write it down and be sure to have it completely committed to memory. The following week, I would add a new scripture, but I would always say them together. So for example… My first week, I memorized Psalm 34:14. The second week, my verse was Psalm 129:7. But before I would say Psalm 129:7, I would say Psalm 34:14. The next week I added Isaiah 41:13 and so forth. It sounds difficult, but eventually your brain starts to get a hang of the order in which you are saying them, making the verses easier to stick. Short, catchy songs are also a fun way to memorize scripture as well.
Question #5: What are some No-Phone zones one could add to everyday life? And what are some ways to cut back on social media time?
I believe that the first key to implementing healthy habits when it comes to phone/social media usage is to remember that they are simply tools. The responsibility with what we do with those tools lies with us as individuals. Secondly, I am a firm believer in finding alternatives. My experience has been that when I’m doing something that I enjoy, I don’t even think about my phone. Find more activities to replace possible time-wasters, otherwise you will only be thinking about what you are missing and it will make things worse. Number three, if you are going to use social media or your phone, make it purposeful. Phones and SM are only time-wasters if that’s what you let them become. Maybe instead of aimlessly scrolling down your feed, you can send someone an encouraging note to let them know you are thinking and praying for them. Follow more inspirational sites/platforms to encourage you in your faith. Share what God is doing in your life with your fellow brothers and sisters. Technology is not an evil plague to be avoided, but rather a resource to be used wisely and sparingly.
Places that I am working on transforming into no-phone zones:
- During any meal, whether it’s at a restaurant, the dinner table at home, or causally in the living room.
- At church unless I need it for teaching a Sunday school lesson.
- When hanging out with people in general!
I have realized, however, that I will end up being the only one in the group to not be on my phone. I just think, “OK… now what?” Lol… I love technology but I think it’s sad our generation is slowly losing the art of communication and socializing.
Okay, so no-phone zones. This is a tough one for just about everyone in our generation I think. But that being said, I do have some places I try my best to keep phone-free. The first place is the dinner table. Eating around the table is always a big deal to me, so I don’t want to be distracted by my phone. The second place is church. For me personally, I know I would be tempted to be on it both during the service and after instead of listening and socializing. I don’t bring it so that I don’t put the temptation in front of myself. The third place is during my devotions, I do my best to never get on my phone during my quiet time with the Lord. The Lord wants to speak to us, and that is more important than Facebook to me. One tip I would have when it comes to your phone is not keeping it in your pocket. When I go down in my living room, sometimes I just leave my phone in my bedroom and wait to get it until I have been off of it for a while. It keeps me in check and not too attached to my phone. I fail at this a lot, but I do my best.
I hope that we answered all of your questions! Thank you again for sending them in! Feel free to comment and ask even more. We love to hear from you guys!
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