WELL, IT’S FEBRUARY. The month where people spend $40 dollars to buy their significant other a gift that just has to beat the one they got them last year. The time of year when romance and love is everywhere. As a 16-year-old single girl, sometimes it’s just enough to make me gag. (No, not really.)
But it just seems, at this point, that every time I log onto a social media site, I see that someone else is newly dating or engaged. I get it ladies; it’s hard to be the only one in your friend group who is not “guy crazy” or in a relationship.
The devil can use this to allow seeds of doubt to creep into our minds. I’m not good enough, that’s why no one likes me. Maybe if I was just skinny, maybe then they would like me. Maybe it’s my personality. Maybe they would prefer me to be more quiet. Maybe it might be the gap between my teeth. Maybe if I got braces to fix it, then maybe I would have a boyfriend. Maybe if I did my hair differently, then maybe he would notice me. These are the struggles I personally deal with, and I’m sure every girl has their own insecurities they deal with. This stuff isn’t true at all. My being skinny or quiet might attract a guy, but not the right kind of guy, that’s for sure. I have finally realized this in my own life. So you may be wondering, how do I stop feeling so “out of the dating loop” and insignificant?
There are two ways that have helped me learn to cope with these inevitable feelings that we all struggle with.
Praying for my future husband has been one of the most rewarding things I have ever done. He has struggles I do not know about, but I can ask the Lord to help him with whatever he is struggling with.
The first way was to come to the place where I completely surrendered my love life to Jesus. I had to hand Him the pen and let Him write my story in the timing that He sees fit. It makes the waiting a whole lot easier knowing that my God has the whole situation under control. I have purposed that I will wait for the right man to come along in the timing God has ordained. I will make mistakes and doubt sometimes, but God has a plan for me and that is really all that matters.
The second way has been praying for my future husband every, single day. As a little girl, my mother would always tell me, “Ashley, I am already praying for your future husband.” Since I was a younger girl and still stuck in the “boys-are-yucky” stage, I thought this was rather strange. However, because I have grown and matured, I realized how amazing this really is. My mother has already been praying that I will have a godly husband that will love me unconditionally, regardless of the fact that she hasn’t met him yet.
Praying for my future husband has been one of the most rewarding things I have ever done. He has struggles I do not know about, but I can ask the Lord to help him with whatever he is struggling with. If you make praying for your future husband a part of your routine now, it will make it easier to do so after you are married. Ephesians 3:20 says, “God is able to do exceeding abundantly, above all that we ask or think.” If we are asking God to help our future husband, not only will He do it, but He’ll do it in a way that exceeds our wildest expectations.
So I challenge you ladies to not doubt yourself, even if you haven’t found the guy who makes your heart flutter yet. I am speaking as much to myself as I am to you. Trust God with your happily-ever-after, and He will reward you far above what you can fathom. Next time you get on Facebook or Instagram and see another new relationship, or that someone else is getting engaged, stop, bow your head, and pray for your future husband. Also, pray for yourself and that God will help you to trust Him while you are waiting.
“For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11). God knows who your future husband is even if you do not. If we surrender our husband to God before we even meet Him, we will be much better off in the future.
Hoping you have a happy and blessed Monday, and a wonderful rest of the week.